Swishy Speaks

The word according to Swishy Pete

Gay people of a certain age, like me, judge potential mates by their responses, something we did not do as youngsters. Honey, my granny always said a no good man will always reveal himself if you're paying attention. I have learned to ask the right questions to get the dirt before I get dirty.

Where did all this come from you ask? Honey I thought you never ask. I have been off work for two weeks playing Nurse Julia to my dear friend Delicious who fell off his clog and injured his knee. D had a torn meniscus and had to have surgery.

After two weeks of Miss Mess, I was ready to hit him on the head with his crutches. Therefore, I went for a long walk in the park with my new man instead of catching a case. Three teenagers, I babysat back in the day, came up to me in the park. If you missed it, I said my new man. Sebastian is his name; he is the person I met at the Chelsea Star lounge.

Any who, what's sweeter than gay teens asking for advice on coming out, parents and the LGBT way of life. I noticed that one of the boys looked like Stewie from Family Guy, the girl looked like Daria, and the other boy looked like a young Brad Pitt when he was in the movie Thelma & Louise. Their questions were standard but Stewie said something that concerned me.

We in the LGBT of a certain age have been slothful in conveying information to the young folks. Instead, we prey, especially older gay men, on the newbies. That’s all I am going to say--there is no need to elaborate.

Sebastian and I were discussing how hookups and anonymous sex were the way of life for many gay people in the past. Gay people of a certain age now have a responsibility to leave a legacy that does not embrace an existence that is hedonistic, complete with drugs-sex-booze.

How do we move forward out of the closets of our minds?

How do we reframe the history of homophobia and reverse the fears of butch girls and fem boys?

I don't have all the answers, but our community must blaze a new path for our LGBT youth. I think a good start should be facing our fears, by taking a stand in our communities, and having a consensus to stamp out homophobia wherever it rears its ugly head. Honey that's it, I'm done!

Oh — by the way, the gangs invited to a Halloween party were the guests have to dress up as celebrities in a few weeks; I'll tell you all about it soon.

Talk to you soon sweeties

Pete